Things with your partner are going really well. They've met your friends, they've met your family, is it finally time for them to meet... your vibrator.
Chances are if you are reading this your vibrator is already a central part of your self-care routine. Maybe your partner has a few pleasure products of their own, or maybe they're just excited to welcome yours into their life. Vibrators are designed to enhance pleasure, so what could be better than incorporating yours to double the fun?
If you’re keen to bring your vibrator into your relationship but aren't sure where to begin, here are a few ideas.
Show and tell
If your partner is unfamiliar with sex toys, or just hasn't seen your specific style of vibrator before, be sure to make the proper introductions. Before you get started, show your partner how it works, and your favourite settings and angles. Consider putting on a little demonstration. Describe what you’re doing, where you’re touching, and the intensity you’re using. Then, if you’re comfortable, lie back and let them take it for a spin.
Combine with penetration
There is a pretty strong case to be made for using a vibrator during sex with your partner if you frequently engage in penetrative sex. Only around 20% of people with vaginas can orgasm through penetration alone; the remainder require clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. While a vibrator isn't necessary for clitoral stimulation, it sure does a lot of the heavy lifting.
Everyone can get involved
Vibrators aren't just for people with clitorises - stimulation is gender-neutral. You can use a vibrator on any of your partner's erogenous zones. As well as the usual suspects (the nipples, perineum and testicles), common erogenous zones include the inner thighs, behind the ear, and even the soles of the feet. Vibration can add a new dimension of pleasure, wherever tickles your partner's fancy.
Enhance your head game
A little known trick is using a vibrator during oral sex to enhance the sensations you’re delivering with your mouth. Hold the vibrator against your cheek to deliver vibration to whatever area you’re stimulating, or consider placing the vibrator somewhere else on their body while you continue stimulating them orally.
Lube up and stay safe
Lube, as always, is a timeless and pleasurable addition to increase the sensation of using a vibrator. Make sure you use the right type of lube - water-based lubricant is recommended for use with any silicone pleasure products - and if you and your partner are using condoms or barrier protection during sex, you should do the same with any vibrator. If you don't have barrier protection on hand, you can always use the vibrator through clothing or underwear - you just might want to dial up the vibration. Finally, clean your vibrator between uses with warm, soapy water, especially if you are using it with multiple partners.
